Staying at home and abusive relationships
For people in abusive relationships, the Coronavirus situation may make things worse - there are already reports of a rise in the number of those in difficulty.
The fears and uncertainties linked to the Coronavirus may make perpetrators of abuse more tense, angry and unpredictable than usual. And being told by the government to stay at home means more time in isolation with them.
It also makes it harder to get away to calmer, friendlier and more respectful places where we can feel safer, more supported and better able to seek help.
This includes trying to stick to a daily routine that supports our mental and physical health. For example, going outdoors for a walk or run (while staying the recommended distance of two meters from others) will give you a break from the other person and could be a chance to seek help.
It might also be helpful to join online discussion forums. These could be ones aimed at people in abusive relationships, such as this one run by the charity Women’s Aid. Or they could be on completely different topics, for example, music, local action to help people affected by the Coronavirus, or other interests you may have.
We should also continue with our usual methods of keeping ourselves and our children safe, where these are still possible.
It may also be helpful to:
1. Stay connected to those you trust
If it’s possible, we can use technology (like phone, e-mail or messaging apps) to stay in daily (or more frequent) touch with people who know our situation, like friends, family, colleagues or neighbours. This will help us stay connected and will show the perpetrator that other people know how we are - and may alert others if they don't hear from us.
2. Check in with others
If feels safe to do so, we could check on vulnerable neighbours, family members or friends, to get some time in places away from home, where it may be safer to get support or help. Using a GP phone service may be another way to contact others outside of home, whom we could ask for help.
3. Reach out for information and support
A list of local services for people experiencing domestic abuse is available in a directory run by Women’s Aid.
Women’s Aid also offers support through email and instant messaging services, as well as a Survivor’s Handbook with information on subjects like housing and dealing with the police.
Apps like Bright Sky may also be helpful. This looks like a weather app so if a partner has control over personal devices, it should not be noticeable. Bright Sky provides information on what abuse is, links to information and resources, and a secure journal to record incidents of abuse secretly, without it being saved to your device.
- Freephone 24/7 National Domestic Violence Helpline, run by Refuge: 0808 2000 247
- The Men’s Advice Line, for male domestic abuse survivors – 0808 801 0327
- The Mix, free information and support for under 25s in the UK – 0808 808 4994
- National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0800 999 5428
- Rights of Women advice lines, there are a range of services available